And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom. ~Anais Nin
we all have our different paths to submission and if many compare bdsm to ‘religion’ well then, some of us are naturally pious whilst others are ‘lapsed’.
for some of us it is as natural as our sex and you never once question it or consider why you enjoy certain things, you just revel in your femininity.
for others it is a gradual process of discovery.
to vanilla men, you might be considered ‘wild in bed’
to a Dominant..you are a dream.
we all have our different levels with which we submit.
some might cringe at the thought of red welts, black & blue bruises, while others wear those signs with pride as a symbol of love.
some will delve to the darkest depths of submission and others will paddle happily about on the surface.
and it doesn’t matter where or what level you are at, whether you are
brand spanking new (pun intended ) or highly experienced….it’s all good.
but before you step in…
you have to know yourself.
you need to have confidence and self assuredness.
you need to have emotional strength & health. (so important)
you don’t want to lose your way, or let anyone chip away at you till there’s nothing left of you.
you have got to be secure with whom you are.
you have to know when to say …..no.
you have to know when to say ..yes.
you have to be secure with your decisions.
you have to know when to walk away…and when to run for your life.
there’s a large margin for abuse when a woman doesn’t know herself or doesn’t have strength of self.
the best part is finding your Dominant.
step s - l - o - w - l - y
you can think with your heart..if those thoughts are tempered with thinking clearly with your head.
it is heaven when a Dominant is in equal love with you..so it’s just about both of you…and you are not one of many. this is what every woman desires in her heart…whether she chooses to admit it or not.
the man who wants you in his life, will place you there….
he will not make you fight for a spot.
ohhh…but LOVE…when there is genuine LOVE…
you will blossom in your submission so beautifully and exquisitely..
your Dominant just might want to get down on His knees.